Squad Goals: Tips to Assess Your People Blessings!
Squad goals aren’t just some urban term that has no value. The Bible admonishes us to check our squad and only connect with the right people in 1 Corinthians 15:33. With this in mind, it’s so very important to check your squad and make sure you’ve got the right people on your team.
Hello, gorgeous! I pray that you’re having an awesome day on purpose!
They say that birds of a feather flock together, and they are right. The people around you are a reflection of your personality, values, ethics, and character. This is why you need to be very careful when choosing your friends and evaluating your squad goals. You need people who add to your life and not just take away for their own comfort and come up. They should empower you and give you wings to fly even when you feel that the safest place in the world is your couch. You need a true, authentic, and fearless squad, sister-friend!
The right people are hard to find and this is why your entire life will probably be an adventurous expedition in search of people who really deserve to be called your friends. And no! The members of your family shouldn’t be included by default as in your squad. They are humans too, and like all the other humans in your life, they need to pass certain your squad goal tests before selected for your squad. We all have family members that make us feel insecure, inferior, or unworthy. These should be the first to go. Just because you’re blood-related doesn’t mean you owe each other something other than mutual respect as a child of God.
Find people that help you grow and become the best version of yourself. You need people that support and love you no matter what and who are taking their role in the squad very seriously. Below are five (5) tips to help you check your squad as you assess, retire, and hire members.
5 Tips to Put Your Squad Goals To the Test & WIN!
Evaluate your relationship with…yourself first!
The one goal we all have in life is to be happy and to live in harmony with our inner selves. Sometimes we can do this by ourselves, but most of the time we need pillars who are always there to protect us from the hurricanes created by self-doubt and insecurities. However, before thinking about your squad goals & putting together your squad, you need to know yourself. You have to assess your emotional and spiritual needs and choose people who are able to respond to them. Because sharing your time with persons who have nothing in common with you or who haven’t got the slightest idea about how to bring out the best in you, is just wasted time. You cannot have true friends until you know your true self. Don’t go into the world without knowing what to ask from it. It will just make you its prisoner.
Evaluate your current squad.
If you don’t have a squad yet just skip to the next step. But if you do have a squad, take a step back and analyze its dynamics, roles, and accomplishments. Is this squad really there for you when you need it? Are they making you a better, more abundant, happier person? Is your life really better with them by your side? One of the decisive selection factors when it comes to true, close friends, is the answer to this question: if I were homeless, would they allow me to stay in their home for free until I got back on my feet? Oh, yes! This is what real friendship looks like. Not just liking photos on Facebook and sending virtual kisses. Anyone can do that! A real friend is always there. Always!
Stay away from energy vampires!
These vampires don’t live only in Transylvania; they are everywhere! All you have to do is turn around and you will encounter one or two energy vampires ready to suck out your will to live with their negativity and whining. Their sadness and emotional impotency are not your problems. I repeat! It is not your problem and you don’t need to answer to their need for attention. They enjoy spending their time in this pool of desperation because they lack courage, determination, and authenticity which is why they feed on your energy. They make you feel bad because they don’t want to be the only ones feeling like this. You’ve heard the saying, “misery loves company” I’m sure. It’s easier for them to drag someone down to their level than trying to lift themselves up to reach new heights. Say no to this mess and move on! Pessimism is not allowed in your life in any shape, fashion, or form from anyone; not even you and definitely not a characteristic to include in your squad goals!
Decide the “role” of each squad member.
When you think it’s time to check your squad, think about the roles. The roles squad members play in your life are different and this is a good thing. You don’t need friends who constantly agree with you and tell you how wonderful you are. You need real people with real personalities that will help you grow and become a confident and fearless person. So, since we are all different, it is important for each member to have a well-defined role in your squad for a healthy dynamic of your group.
You need at least one friend who is always honest with you, even if this means that she may appear a bit heartless at times. It’s for your own good! Accept its candidature and welcome her into your squad. You also need someone who is really good at giving advice, and by advice, I don’t mean someone who just reads what other people have said. You need authentic advice designed especially for your situation. This squad member needs to be very clever and experienced. It’s a must!
I also recommend a funny woman in your squad. Someone who makes you smile without putting too much effort into it. Also, it wouldn’t hurt to have a “mom” too. You know, the kind of girl who has affection to give, is always sober and ready to drive all of the other squad members home whenever you’ve partied a bit too much. Someone who takes care of you without you even knowing, when you’re too stressed with your job or too tired to even change the TV channels.
The list can go on and on. But the most important thing is for you to always feel comfortable being yourself around your girls. A true squad is a healthy comfort zone. A place that your inner self can call home. Now, that’s squad goals!
Retire or fire the dead weight & canvas the area for new squad members!
You will never be able to put together a bulletproof squad if you’re spending your time with the same people all the time. And don’t feel bad about feeling the need to check your squad. Just like we have to maintain our bodies, our vehicles, and our mind, for optimum performance, we have to make sure our squad goals are being met if our squad is going to operate at peak performance.
Get out and meet new people, escape your comfort and, most of the times, toxic zone and widen your social horizons. Of course, true friends are hard to find and you have to be ready to invest a lot of time in setting up auditions for the roles available in your squad, but if you find one or two persons worthy of your time, trust, and admiration, you have accomplished your mission.
Ready to check your squad?
Are you re-evaluating your #squadgoals now?! Is it time to upgrade your squad goals? Do you have the perfect squad members in place? Let’s talk about it! Comment below with your thoughts.
As always, be #fearlessauthenticunapologetic and keep it Chic.Classy.Spicy.